Written by Gwen Soat, LCMHCA You Might Be the Family Scapegoat if… You feel like the black sheep in your family. You are blamed for problems that were never fully yours. Your mistakes are remembered longer than anyone else’s. Your successes are minimized, ignored, or picked apart. You feel emotionally excluded from your own family. […]
Perfectionism and Anxiety: Stop “Should-ing” on Yourself
Perfectionism and Anxiety and Recovering from that Mindset Hi, I’m Tabitha and I’m a recovering perfectionist. I say recovering because it’s an ongoing process, sometimes a rather frustrating one if I’m being honest. Perfectionism is sneaky. It disguises itself as high standards, as diligence, as caring deeply about doing things well. Before you freak out […]
Why Hope Isn’t an Outcome, It’s an Anchor
What is Hope and How is it Not a Swear Word? Hope is one of the most overused and misunderstood words in healing spaces, yet it holds surprising depth when we stop tying it to outcomes and start treating it as a way of seeing. Today we’re exploring hope as a lens grounded in reality: […]
Why Mindfulness Practice Matters for Trauma Healing
Many people try mindfulness practice and feel worse, not better. They sit still, notice their heart race or their thoughts go willy nilly, and decide they’re failing. The truth is so much kinder (and more accurate): your nervous system is doing its job. When you’ve lived with chronic stress, abuse, or ongoing uncertainty, your body […]
When EMDR Isn’t the Right Fit: What Trauma Survivors and Therapists Need to Know
In a recent episode of the Hey Tabi Podcast, I shared when Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) might not be the best therapy choice for someone healing from trauma. EMDR is powerful—but not always the right tool for the job. And that’s okay! Let’s talk about the why and what else you can do. […]