Perfectionism and Anxiety and Recovering from that Mindset Hi, I’m Tabitha and I’m a recovering perfectionist. I say recovering because it’s an ongoing process, sometimes a rather frustrating one if I’m being honest. Perfectionism is sneaky. It disguises itself as high standards, as diligence, as caring deeply about doing things well. Before you freak out […]
Interrupting Negative Thoughts: Your Mind Is Not the Boss of You
Interrupting Negative Thoughts When I was a kid I had opinions. I know this is utterly shocking for those who actually know. Shocking. And I remember saying to another kid who wanted me to do something I did not want to do on the playground, “You’re not the boss of me!” Our thoughts can for […]
What if the Way You’re Thinking is Making Your Anxiety and Depression Worse?
Anxiety and Depression and How to Help Yourself If you’ve ever been told to “just stop worrying” or to “choose joy,” you already know how unhelpful that advice is. Anxiety and depression are not character flaws. Nor are they signs that your faith is weak. They are not things you can simply decide your way […]
Why Healing Feels Worse Before it Feels Better (and Why That’s Not Failure)
One of the most confusing—and discouraging—parts of healing from trauma is this: You finally start doing the work, and instead of feeling better, you feel worse at first. You feel more emotional, more tired, more tender. Sometimes you also feel more angry, sad, or overwhelmed than before. That can feel super frustrating when what […]
Why Mindfulness Practice Matters for Trauma Healing
Many people try mindfulness practice and feel worse, not better. They sit still, notice their heart race or their thoughts go willy nilly, and decide they’re failing. The truth is so much kinder (and more accurate): your nervous system is doing its job. When you’ve lived with chronic stress, abuse, or ongoing uncertainty, your body […]
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