Henry Wadsworth Longfellow is famous for having said, “Into each life some rain must fall,” meaning life is always going to throw us some heartache. This same sentiment can be said about relationships. Into each one some irritability, frustration and overall blah-ness tends to fall. But while it’s common for all couples to go through “the […]
3 Essential Listening Skills to Improve Your Relationship
One of the most important aspects of a healthy relationship is communication. When both partners understand how to communicate properly, they feel loved, connected and secure. But when effective communication is lacking, both people can become defensive, and the relationship can be mired down in distrust, misunderstanding and resentments. When couples are hitting rock […]
The Importance of Creating & Sharing Goals as a Couple
Many authors, from Viktor Frankl to Deepak Chopra, have discussed the importance of living a purposeful life, one with goals for the future. Purpose allows us to transcend ourselves and create meaningful moments. Frankl believed a pursuit for meaning in life is far more important than the pursuit of happiness, as meaning connects us to […]
3 Questions to Ask After an Affair
Discovering that your partner has been unfaithful can feel devastating. On top of the unspeakable pain from the sexual betrayal are the lies they have told – either through words or by their silence. It is common for people to feel completely lost once they discover the infidelity and not know how to feel or […]
How to Get the Most Out of Couples Therapy
As a therapist, I often have a front row seat to relationship miracles. Well, okay, there are no miracles really. The fact is “fixing” a relationship takes work. It takes two people wanting it to work and then putting in the effort. Having said that, I have seen couples go from nearly ending it to being back in love, […]