You didn’t mean for it to go this far.
When you got married or got into this relationship, you didn’t plan to become the kind of man who intimidates, controls, manipulates, or explodes.
But here you are.
Your wife or partner seems distant. Your kids look at you differently. Maybe there have been ultimatums. Maybe church leaders have asked hard questions. Maybe you’ve started to see patterns you can’t unsee.
And deep down, you know something has to change.
The truth? Information alone won’t fix this.
You’re smart. Capable. Successful. You know how to lead at work, solve complex problems, and protect what matters. But at home?
You feel reactive. Defensive. Easily triggered.
You justify your behavior — “She pushes my buttons.”
You minimize it — “It’s not like I hit her.”
You spiritualize it — “I’m just trying to lead.”
But if you’re honest, you know control is not the same as leadership. Fear is not the same as respect. And silence is not the same as peace.
Without intentional work, these patterns don’t fade. They escalate.
I’m Peter Escue.
I’m a Certified Biblical Counselor, Life Coach, Men of Peace Facilitator, and I want you to know there is a different way to be a man.
I work specifically with men who recognize destructive or coercively controlling patterns and want real change—not image management, not behavior modification for a season or check boxes to complete, but real, lasting, heart-level transformation.
I bring a unique blend of expertise:
- Certified Biblical Counseling that doesn’t just tell you “take two verses and call me in the morning”
- Men of Peace training – specialized help for Christian men who want to become men of peace instead of being men of destruction
- Extensive work with domestic abuse perpetrators and destructive men
- Trained in Domestic Abuse Advocacy, meaning I understand what this behavior does to your wife/partner
- Certified Clinical Trauma Care Professional Level 2 (CCTCP-L2), meaning I understand trauma and how it impacts lives
- A professional background in cybersecurity — where patterns, blind spots, and hidden vulnerabilities are identified and addressed with precision
I understand how high-functioning men think. I know how easy it is to hide behind competence. And I’m not intimidated by defensiveness, minimization, or spiritual bypassing.
Moreover, I also believe this:
- You are not beyond redemption.
- You are not too far gone.
- And you are capable of becoming a man of peace.
What Working With Peter Looks Like
I do not shame. I do not collude. I do not minimize harm.
Instead, I help you:
- Identify coercive and controlling patterns clearly
- Take full ownership of your behavior
- Develop emotional regulation and self-awareness
- Rebuild integrity between your public and private life
- Align your faith with actual humility and accountability
- Move from domination to servant leadership
This work is not easy. But it is possible.
At The Journey and The Process, our mission is to bring hope and healing to those impacted by complex trauma and coercive control. That includes working with men who are ready to face their own patterns and do the hard work of change.
If you’re tired of living in defensiveness… If you’re tired of managing appearances… If you’re ready to become safe—not just respected…
I am ready to walk that road with you. You don’t have to keep being the man you’ve been. You can become a man of peace. Reach out below to apply for our Men of Peace group.
Stop just surviving. Start truly living.
Peter’s Nitty Gritty
- Education –
- Training & Certifications – Certified Biblical Counselor through The Association of Biblical Counselors, Men of Peace Facilitator, Trained Professional Life Coach
If you are ready to make deep change in your life, apply for our Men of Peace program. I would love to see you become a man of peace. Don’t spend another day trapped in this cycle!